What's fair and it's my friend Michael Suggested That if I wrote about mothers on Mother's Day, I would have to write about Father's Day. So, here I am writing. It's hard for me because although I love my father so much, I'm not sure we ever had meaningful relationships for the last few years.
Father's life was complicated. His mother was in a wheelchair for most of his life, like arthritis and his father as an alcoholic. Yes! I think that's where I'll find it. Both died in the early 40s; Both died of their own diseases. I did not have the opportunity to know one of them. Father had a brother. They were partly very poor because Grandpa spent his money on alcohol. Mom tells me that when they were first married, dad got a call from the local bar to ask his dad to take him.
When I got married, I went away. At times, when I visited my mother, I told me that dad was as drunk as his father. I should admit that I don't think I ever saw my dad come to the door for the first time without a beer from work, but I don't think I ever saw him drunk. However, I refused to say about him. I thought my dad was weak, I think, and felt the need to support him. At some point, the doctor told him that he could not drink, and he did not. Just as soon! I believe my father is an alcoholic. I can tell you that he is certainly not a dry alcoholic. But he categorically denies that his father was an alcoholic. He only says, "He drank a little bit".
Many of you are reading this, which has excellent dead/dead. Are Many of you are reading this, whose father is, who abused or sacrificed them. Perhaps some of you never knew a dad. Some of you are, like me, who, no matter what your dad is on your list of outrage/outrage. I had my own personal feelings that I couldn't blame my father for alcoholism, but I blamed him for the need to feel loved. Mix with wine, and this is not a beautiful picture.
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Dad, however, has changed over the years. He can say, "I love you's. "And when I see him for a trip, he can hug and kiss me." When I went, tears came to his eyes. Maybe it's not just what has changed. Perhaps I've finally been able to accept her because she's not daddy's little girl. It's growing up and calming down!
If you are a father in recovery, then your job is no different from the mother in recovery. We take steps every day and hold meetings. We give our children a chance to know who we really are and how much we love them. We are present in their lives and in ourselves. For all of us in recovery, men and women, I hope we can, in some way, respect our father. He may be keeping him in our prayers, calling, coming, or maybe taking just one step closer to forgiving if you're there today. What is it about parents that we say in recovery? They did what they did best! Happy Father's Day to all men in recovery and all men in your life!
Happy Fathers Day 2020
Start by telling me that my dad was second on my list of outrage (mom, of course, without Sunero). My mom was on the list because she was taking control and decisions, and my dad was on the list because she was nothing. God, it sounds horrible. He was a great provider, generous and kind. I remember that only once in my life did he ever raise my voice. As a kid, we gave him the obligatory good night kiss, but I'm not sure if he ever kissed us back. Mom explained that she loved us. He just does not know how to show or say it.Father's life was complicated. His mother was in a wheelchair for most of his life, like arthritis and his father as an alcoholic. Yes! I think that's where I'll find it. Both died in the early 40s; Both died of their own diseases. I did not have the opportunity to know one of them. Father had a brother. They were partly very poor because Grandpa spent his money on alcohol. Mom tells me that when they were first married, dad got a call from the local bar to ask his dad to take him.
When I got married, I went away. At times, when I visited my mother, I told me that dad was as drunk as his father. I should admit that I don't think I ever saw my dad come to the door for the first time without a beer from work, but I don't think I ever saw him drunk. However, I refused to say about him. I thought my dad was weak, I think, and felt the need to support him. At some point, the doctor told him that he could not drink, and he did not. Just as soon! I believe my father is an alcoholic. I can tell you that he is certainly not a dry alcoholic. But he categorically denies that his father was an alcoholic. He only says, "He drank a little bit".
Many of you are reading this, which has excellent dead/dead. Are Many of you are reading this, whose father is, who abused or sacrificed them. Perhaps some of you never knew a dad. Some of you are, like me, who, no matter what your dad is on your list of outrage/outrage. I had my own personal feelings that I couldn't blame my father for alcoholism, but I blamed him for the need to feel loved. Mix with wine, and this is not a beautiful picture.
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Dad, however, has changed over the years. He can say, "I love you's. "And when I see him for a trip, he can hug and kiss me." When I went, tears came to his eyes. Maybe it's not just what has changed. Perhaps I've finally been able to accept her because she's not daddy's little girl. It's growing up and calming down!
If you are a father in recovery, then your job is no different from the mother in recovery. We take steps every day and hold meetings. We give our children a chance to know who we really are and how much we love them. We are present in their lives and in ourselves. For all of us in recovery, men and women, I hope we can, in some way, respect our father. He may be keeping him in our prayers, calling, coming, or maybe taking just one step closer to forgiving if you're there today. What is it about parents that we say in recovery? They did what they did best! Happy Father's Day to all men in recovery and all men in your life!
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